"Moshiach is ready to come now-our part is to increase in acts of goodness and kindness" -The Rebbe

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Who's really at fault?

The Previous Rebbe said:

Even if the other person is not as he should be, the person should know that he is lacking. The other person doesn’t know what you know. If he would know what you know, he would certainly become a different person. If you would behave properly, others would learn from you.

Sefer HaMa’amarim 5710, p. 264.

In my own words: When one see a fault in others, human nature is to see it as just that—a fault in him, and not in oneself. But in many cases in fact the opposite is true: The other guy behaves inappropriately because he doesn’t know better. But I do know better, and yet I fail to live up to what is expected of me. Moreover, if I would change, he would be inspired. So in a way, my negligence is the cause of his faults.


  1. the baal shemtov says that it is worse than that.

    those faults which tend to offend us most in others are percisely the faults that we possess in the largest measure.

  2. Except that blaming yourself for his faults leaves you depressed...so watch out.


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