tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2892681084518056774.post8628514037834028822..comments2024-02-02T08:46:49.866-08:00Comments on A Chassidishe farbrengen: Lower the age of marriage!Yehoishophot Oliverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16906934928426540018noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2892681084518056774.post-39757244743506200062010-11-11T13:57:21.020-08:002010-11-11T13:57:21.020-08:00The Rebbe is clearly discussing the desired age no...The Rebbe is clearly discussing the desired age not just for those in the Chassidic community, but for all Jewry, as the Rebbe explicitly refers to the differences between Sefardic and Ashkenazic Jewry.<br /><br />Marrying early may provide challenges in terms of parnasa for some, but those challenges can be overcome. And remember what Chazal say: "ein adam yodei'a bameh mistaker"--a person does not know how he will earn a living. <br /><br />Marrying early, on the other hand, provides tremendous spiritual benefits that make whatever material difficulties may be associated with it minuscule in comparison.Yehoishophot Oliverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16906934928426540018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2892681084518056774.post-54628513763013838492010-11-11T11:19:05.144-08:002010-11-11T11:19:05.144-08:00Don't I wish. But how is this feasible today?...Don't I wish. But how is this feasible today? To the contrary, one who marries young will place astronomical burdens on others in providing for his home and then children. Unless he is full-time in the search for parnasa. But even then, it takes time to go through the proper channels in order to secure a reasonable parnasa. A friend of mine is a terrific mathematician, as well as programmer (the practical side of mathematics), but he is working incredibly hard now (age 23) just to get a masters. Another friend of mine has been in finance for years, and has had much internship experience. He has the mind for it. But he doesn't even have a proper job yet. Getting the proper credentials and a solid job is only the beginning, with a reasonable period of time holding that job and raising revenue also a necessity.<br />Plenty of people I know in the more frum community are already married, and I admit that I am madly jealous. But facts must be faced. I reason that since it is a delight to marry and have children, yet practically unfeasible (for those who are less frum and meticulous than their brethren), "business before pleasure", as they say, and the encouragement and yearning to marry must be the yetzer hora in disguise.<br />Perhaps this article was addressed only to chassidim and therefore not relevant to myself, as I am not part of the chassidishe kehilah.Yehoshua Simcha Solomonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13270005335881482008noreply@blogger.com